Dating outside religion

30-Nov-2016 09:18

An important and practical consequence of this is that if you know that a person is a theist, you cannot automatically assume that they are also necessarily religious.Having a belief in the existence of at least one god does not require a person to also have, somewhere, several of the above characteristics of a religion.One would assume that the more “devout” we are, the more secure we’d be in our faith tenets. What is it about dating that would presume something different than a casual acquaintance or friendship? It’s one of the reasons why we’ve become so exclusive in our denominations and religions.Surely spending intensive amounts of time with someone who practices another faith would not disrupt our spiritual groove. This exclusivity translates into our hesitancy—and sometimes our downright obstinacy—of being open to what others have to say about God. It took practice, critical thinking, and a strategy.” Reason #3: It’s About Radical Love Nearly everyone thinks they’ve cornered the market on God. Still single and thinking about opening up your world to dating outside your parish? If you enjoyed this post, please share it so that others will benefit! For the latest posts and updates, please subscribe to the blog, like my author page, and follow on Twitter! Share your story, tweet a comment, or leave your thoughts below.How often do we say in public and in private, “Oh, he’s a [insert religious/denominational label here]; I can’t understand why anyone would believe in that.” Even under the Christian umbrella, we engage and name-calling and bickering: “Oh, they’re not really Christians.” But we don’t have an exclusive take on God. For Christians, belief in Christ is central to our faith. Remember one of Christ’s key teachings: “This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you.” (John , NRSV) Belief should mean more than our typical salvation formula of accepting Jesus Christ as our personal savior—it should mean following radical examples of love like the one in John . *Note: my definition of “outside” includes those couples dating outside their Christian denominational (e.g., a Baptist and a Methodist; a Presbyterian and a Pentecostal) as well as those dating outside their religion and/or moral traditions (e.g. Each Sunday, you look around, confident that nearly everyone in the Lord’s House believes all the same things you do, including the old lady next to you who hoards Kleenex.But, you’re likely not asking her, or even the young adults in your small group, “Why do we baptize adults?

” Interdenominational and interfaith conversations force us to consider: “Why do we believe what we believe? Praying on your Protestant Prayer Beads with your Catholic partner? Remember: it’s not so much about having the same faith, as it is about having deep faith.But what if I told you that you’d benefit spiritually from being in close relationship with someone who views God differently? on book tour, we faced this question at nearly every venue: “What did your parents have to say about your dating and marriage? The same exercise applies to faith: when we are presented with the challenging questions that arise in ecumenical or interfaith circumstances, we are more likely to hunker down to find the answers. By virtue of what they are, interfaith relationships immerse us into contexts where we’re surrounded by questions we would not otherwise entertain in our isolated faith communities.” Our typical response included the story about Fred’s Texan Granny saying she’d “whoop his a** if he didn’t marry that Baptist minister.” Then we shared my steel magnolia mother’s relief at having her 29-year-old daughter finally find someone she could share her life—and faith—with. But there is a prerequisite for this exercise: openness.In reality, however, the two are very different — it is readily possible to be a theist without a religion and it is just as possible to be religious without also being a theist. Summer ’06 always assumed that she would raise her children Jewish.

” Interdenominational and interfaith conversations force us to consider: “Why do we believe what we believe? Praying on your Protestant Prayer Beads with your Catholic partner? Remember: it’s not so much about having the same faith, as it is about having deep faith.But what if I told you that you’d benefit spiritually from being in close relationship with someone who views God differently? on book tour, we faced this question at nearly every venue: “What did your parents have to say about your dating and marriage? The same exercise applies to faith: when we are presented with the challenging questions that arise in ecumenical or interfaith circumstances, we are more likely to hunker down to find the answers. By virtue of what they are, interfaith relationships immerse us into contexts where we’re surrounded by questions we would not otherwise entertain in our isolated faith communities.” Our typical response included the story about Fred’s Texan Granny saying she’d “whoop his a** if he didn’t marry that Baptist minister.” Then we shared my steel magnolia mother’s relief at having her 29-year-old daughter finally find someone she could share her life—and faith—with. But there is a prerequisite for this exercise: openness.In reality, however, the two are very different — it is readily possible to be a theist without a religion and it is just as possible to be religious without also being a theist. Summer ’06 always assumed that she would raise her children Jewish.I think you, and everyone you know, should marry outside* your faith tradition.